Monday, April 20, 2015

Argument on Taweez.

Friend A: As-Salaamu Alaikum.

Friend B: Wa Alaikum As-Salaam Warahmatullahi Wabarakatuh, what is this in your neck?

Friend A: It is a Ta'weez (amulet), our family Peer sahb gave it to me for my protection from evil eye.

Friend B: This is wrong brother, Rasoolullaah صلى الله عليه وسلم
never gave Ta'weez to any of his companion, while in the contrary, he said; "Whoever wears a Ta'weez, committed Shirk."

Friend A: Oh come on brother, what is Shirk in it? It only contains few Aayaat of the Qur'an, and Allaah himself says in the Qur'aan that there is Shifa (Cure) in it.


Friend B: As-Salaamu Alaikum Warahatullahi Wa Barakaatuh

Friend A: Wa Alaikum As-Salaam Warahmatullahi Wabarakatuh, now what is this in your neck???

Friend B: Ohh, this is a bottle of honey.

Friend A: But why you are hanging it in your neck?

Friend B: You read in the Qur'an that the Qur'an contains Shifaa, I also read in the same Qur'an that even honey contains Shifaa. So, you hung aayaat of Qur'aan in your neck and I am hanging honey in the neck.

Friend A: Brother, are you crazy??? Honey contains Shifaa, but you have to drink/eat it, how will you be cured by hanging it on your neck.

Friend B: That's what I am trying to explain you that the Qur'an contains Shifaa, but you will be benefited by it only if you use it in the correct way, like the Prophet  صلى الله عليه وسلم
used it, by reading, understanding and acting upon it. Hanging it on your neck won't benefit you, like honey won't benefit me by hanging it on the neck.

Friend A: Sub'haan Allaah, I have understood now my friend ,
 Jazaak Allaahu Khayran!

Sunday, April 12, 2015

Ruqya against magic and evil eye

 When have you last done RUQYA for your children?!

�� In the times we live in & the standalone families that we are (as expats), we mums are busy rushing here, there and everywhere for our children.

��To get their meals done, diapers changed, their bodies washed, siblings' fights abated, schools attended, homework done, their extracurricular activities not missed, bed routines on time. And the list goes on...

�� In all this dunya rush, do you remember including doing Ruqya for your children? And doing so VERY OFTEN, and not just when they fall sick.

��Children are more helpless against al-'ayn (evil eye), sihr (magic), hasad (jealousy) & harm from amongst the jinns & humans. As mothers (& fathers) we should incorporate the protective Quranic & Sunnah measures in our daily routine, the easiest time being at the children's bedtime.
The Prophet (salAllahu 'alayhi wassalam) out of his deep love for his grandsons al-Hassan and al-Hussayn (radiallahu 'anhum) used to supplicate for them the dua that Ibrahim ('alayhi salaam) used to supplicate for his sons Isma'il and Ishaaq.

�� "A’oodhu bi kalimaat Allaah al-taammah min kulli shaytaanin wa haammah wa min kulli ‘aynin laammah"

[I seek refuge in the perfect words of Allah, from every devil and every poisonous reptile, and from every evil eye] (Sahih Bukhari, 3120)

⏩ The scholars also recommend reciting (with Eeman & Tawakkul) al-Mu‘awwidhatayn 3 times each (i.e Surah Falaq & Nas) over them and to wipe their bodies whilst reciting. Or to recite the Surahs into one’s hands and blowing in them while spitting (v.lightly), then wiping your hands over their bodies.

Reciting Surah Al-Fatiha, Ayat Al-Kursi (surah 2:255) is also part of Ruqya.

�� And when they are bigger, teach them to read Ruqya on themselves just as you do on yourself before you hit the sack! (sleep).

❎ Other protective measures from the Sunnah that we should be implementing to make our homes a believer's fortress, is to bring the children in just before MAGHRIB TIME. Our Prophet (pbuh) warned us agai
nst the dispersing harmful devils at that time.

☑ Saying BISMILLAH before going out & entering the house with them, when closing your doors and windows, and when covering your open ustensils rack at night.

☑ Giving ADHAAN in your home (the father!) Of course not missing any of your daily salawat, dhikr & Quran recitation.

☑ Teach your children the sunnah of reading the DUA before ENTERING TOILET seeking refuge from the jinns & to avoid ruins/unclean places (garbage dumps, graveyards)

☑ In this age of social media, scholars warn us against posting our private family affairs, especially our children's PHOTOGRAPHS out to the public eye. Not just against sick-minded predators, also against a source of evil eye & jealousy.

�� The onus is on us. Let us 'tie our camels' and insha Allah, our precious sprouts & families will always be under Allah's special Rahmah. Ameen.

Saturday, April 04, 2015


Ibn al-Qayyim says "Every muscle in the body was created to execute a specific function, by which, it can obtain the pinnacle of its performance. And the sickness of that particular body part is its failure to execute the function for which it was created or having some level of deficiency in performing it, if it even functions at all.

The sickness of the hand is its inability to grab. The sickness of the eye is its inability to see. The sickness of the tongue is its inability to utter. The sickness of the body is its inability to move in the natural order it was created to or its deficiency in doing do.

The sickness of the heart is its inability to execute the functions it was created to perform such as; being conscious of Allah, knowing Allah, loving Allah, desiring to meet Allah and turning constantly towards Him, while giving precedence to this over the heart’s every ardent desire.

Consequently, if the slave knows everything else but fails to know Allah, it is as if he knows absolutely nothing. Even if he achieves some share or portion of what this transient life has to offer from its many pleasures and desires but fails to develop a solid intimate relationship with Allah which produces an ardent desire to meet Him emerging from a strong love of Him, then he has failed to achieve the bliss this life has to offer as well as forfeited the ultimate pleasure of his eye.

Rather if the heart is completely void of the knowledge of Allah and the desire to meet Him, then all of what he obtained from the pleasures and delights of this life will inevitably become a punishment for him"

Ref: Ighatha tul Lahfan min Masayid ush Shaytan

Friday, March 27, 2015

A Misconception...

The very first masjid in INDIA built by Malik bin Dinar.

It's a common misconception that Islam came to India through Khwaja Moinuddin Chisti.
In reality, it came during the time of Prophet Mohammed [peace be upon him], when one of his companions Malik bin Dinar [ra] along with others traveled to India for trade, the first Hindu King who embraced Islam was Cheraman Perumal. Later in 16th Hijri, during the caliphate of Omar (ra), a caravan of Sahaba visited India.
In 93 Hijri, Mohammed bin Qassim (rh) visited India along with his troops when he got the information of Muslim captives in India.
Khwaja Moinuddin Chisti was an Iranian, he was born in Sistan-Iran. He began his journey from Iran, settled in Lahore for a short duration and eventually settled in Ajmer - India. He came in around 600 Hijri to Indian subcontinent. He carried all the Majoosi, Shia and Sufi beliefs.

The Islam which was brought by Sahaba and Tabaeen was entirely different from what he taught.

Tuesday, March 03, 2015

World's most valuable treasure.

I came across a beautiful marriage story that is an example of unwavering faith in Allah and being blessed with the world's most valuable treasure – a righteous wife. May Allah bless the brother and his family. Here is the story :

Like most guys at 25 I just wanted to get married even though I didn’t have two pennies to rub together, times were really tuff for me back then.It’s been around 6 years since I got married. My wife came from a very wealthy background mashallah, I however did not.
My wife was very understanding with regards to this and wanted to marry me regardless. Alhamdulliah I got married in East London at a cost of £500.

We arrived back to my parents house where we stayed for the next 2 years. As I mentioned earlier I had very little to my name, I couldn’t afford a bed to sleep on, and I was stubborn to ask my parents for help.My brother had a spare used mattress which we decided to sleep on, their wasn’t a night i wouldn’t complain about the springs pressing into my back.

My wife fell pregnant shortly after marriage, the 9 months was especially hard for her as the mattress was very uncomfortable. She would never complain though, but I knew if it was hurting me, it was killing her. I remember close to her due date, we both couldn’t sleep due to our back pain, I remember her saying, ‘In shaa Allah after Rumaisa our situation will change, she will come with her rizq and so will her siblings..’

My sunflower Rumaisa was born and soon after my fortunates started to change literally overnight. My business started to do well, I brought a bed and then had enough money to finally move out.A year later, Hafsah was born, prior to her birth I started another business, that too started to do really well. Maa shaa' Allah
And then 2 years later, Ibraheem was born and he too came with his rizq in the form of a 3rd business. Maa shaa' Allah!

Why I shared this story?

Well, many atimes people forget that Allah is the who gives rizq and his supply is unlimited, all you have to do is ask. I also wanted to point out the blessing of children, if I could I would have 4 children every 9 months! Children are an unbelievable blessing, regardless of your situation they come with their own rizq, so don’t worry about that, just keep them coming.

And finally marrying a pious spouse makes the world of difference, my wife could have built 10 bed factories but she didn’t want to live off her parents and was patient about her situation. So marry someone who loves Allah, in turn Allah will love her.
I will leave you with a verse of the Noble Quran, ponder over it..”

And whoever fears Allah - He will make for him a way out. And will provide for him from where he does not expect. And whoever relies upon Allah - then He is sufficient for him. Indeed, Allah will accomplish His purpose. Allah has already set for everything a [decreed] extent. [65:2-3]

Thursday, February 19, 2015

A Letter To A Mujahid's Wife.

“Dedicated to my princess.

You never once complained when you knew that we would have nothing. You were contempt on having only what little you needed. Where others would have left or moaned, you never once let out a sigh. You understood that what was written was what we would eat. I never once complained abut what was put in front of me as I knew it was your hands that brought it to me. When I had nothing I had you. You put your trust in your Rabb (Lord) and in turn you followed me.

Never did I have to wonder about you as my secrets, my honor and my deen were safe with you. We both know what hardships you faced just by being with me, but not a word did you speak. You were strong and in turn made me strong. Like a vanguard for this Ummah, you concealed yourself. Where others would rush to please their desires, you were the essence of taqwaa (piety).

Life was easy with you and it came so naturally. You were the extension of me and I would never need to finish my words, as who knew me better than you? You knew your place which was by my side. It is the little things that make the person and you would easily have kept me going for a lifetime. The way you would look at me with fire in your eyes showed me that I was the only one for you. You stole my heart and hid it away.
I loved your jealousy and I loved to tease you with the thought of others just so I could know how dear I was to you.

What chance did shaytaan have when you would ensure that fajr was the easiest of the salaahs. I loved that you would forsake me in an instant to fast a voluntary fast. I loved that the haqq (truth) was dearer to you than my life and those of our jewels.
Watching you makes me laugh as I wonder if my heart will ever want another as I see you feed my child, as you lift her out if the bath, as you wipe her little nose and the face she pulls. You will never find a diamond in the hands of another in the same way our diamond deserves to be carried in your hands. We could have it all my love, but who sells paradise for an hour of passing pleasure? No us.

For you Umm ****** the loyalties of my babies are. They will love what we love, they will love Allaah, The Most Glorified, The Most High. They will love those who they have never met but will long to meet. They will love them better than us. They will love the prophets and the best of Companions. They will live to honor one statement. Laa ilaaha ill-Allaahu Muhammad ar-rasool Allaah. Others will fall under the weight of it but not them. Their hearts will beat it, their words testify to it and their hands carry it.

Don’t think I left you. Don’t think that in this world anything is dearer to me than the minute that I walk home knowing what waits for me behind closed doors.
I went to find a better place for us. I went to fulfill the best of deals. I saw it written that if you give your life, eternity would be ours. I saw it written somewhere that this was all a test and I have no doubt that the one who promises us and whose Word is the Truth must Love me very much as he gave me you and you were the hardest thing to give up.

They say that the mind cannot comprehend what awaits us, that sadness will be forgotten, and they say that the eye has yet to see and the ear has yet to hear the beauty that awaits us in our new home. They say rivers of honey my love, they say rivers of milk and wine. They say pearls and gold thrones, they say musk and cool breezes.
Is it not fitting that I go to see this land afar to take you and our children?
I fear that the gates of opportunity will close behind me my love. I fear others will hear what I hear and rush there and I will have nothing to offer to you. I know you will send our sons to look for their father.

Tell them that they will find me in every battle, in every fight where the black flag is flown. Tell them that the pain will be a pinch and then they will see what I see, they will see the beautiful birds that come to meet them. Tell them the Angels will call them by the best of names and most of all that Allaah The One, The Eternal will be pleased with them.
I told you once that only two things will have me, you and death. My life was with you but now I must marry again. I must marry what was promised to me the moment I was born, I must marry my fate and in turn I must marry death. After death will come reckoning and if I stand with the best of creation, with the permission of Allaah, The Lord of the heavens and the earth, I will beg for you.

None was worthy enough to stand next to me in this life so why is it that I should desire another in the next?”

Saturday, January 24, 2015


In the USA, Nick George, a white non-Muslim American, was arrested and detained in Philadelphia airport because the TSA search found something "very suspicious" with him in his travel bags.

What is it? a bomb? a weapon? attack instructions? No, nothing like that. It was simply because he was carrying... flash cards to learn the Arabic language!! Here is the conversation:

TSA Officer: "Do you know who did 9/11?" 
Taken totally aback, Nick answered: "Osama Bin Laden, I guess." 
TSA Officer: "And what language did he speak?"
Nick: "Arabic?!" 
TSA Officer: "So do you see why these cards are suspicious?!!"

After that he was handcuffed from the back, dragged outside the airport in front of everyone, and then locked in a police cell! He was later released, and most people would be happy to simply walk out of this unharmed, however, he wanted to take an extra step to make sure this doesn't happen to anyone again, so what did he do?

He sued them! So they offered him a $25,000 compensation outside of court. But instead of agreeing, he demanded that all airport and police officers must go through a sensitivity training and not handcuff or treat anyone in the same way without clear evidence for suspicion. They agreed and signed the new guidelines today. What an honorable person! May the almighty help him learn the language of Quran and find guidance for being a decent person!

Taken from Sheik Waleed Abdul Hakeem's Fb page
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Friday, January 16, 2015

Timesless Pearls of Wisdom from Qur'an

بِسْمِ اللَّهِ الرَّحْمَـنِ الرَّحِيمِ

Timeless Pearls of Wisdom from Qur'an
by Sadaf farooqi

Reciting the Qur'an is an act of worship.
Thinking deeply about the ayaat of the Qur'an whilst reciting them in Arabic (especially when/if Allah has blessed the reciter with enough knowledge to understand the Arabic of the Qur'an directly) can have many beautiful effects on the reciter, not the least of which is the acquisition of deep insight (تَفَكُّر), which enables him/her to closely relate the ayaatthey are reciting to the currently-happening events and incidents in their own lives, as well as the lives of other people dwelling in the same era as they.
Here are a few such pearls of wisdom in the Qur'an that I've extracted (by Allah's will) over time. Please keep in mind, that I cannot explain in full details how I gleaned these lessons through the course of many events in my own life, but rest assured, it was the Qur'an that was the source of the wisdom imparted through them, to me.
And all good is solely from Allah.
☞ Victory and Success Comes Only Through Pain and Hardship
There is no shortcut to success, either worldly or that of the Hereafter.
To attain any goal, blessing, status, honor, achievement, award, or a high level of intangible or intangible success, one must be prepared to toil hard, tolerate and overcome problems with strength and patience, and face the opposition of people with staunch, unswerving firmness.
Only successful people have haters and antagonists. It is the people who aren't achieving anything special or extraordinary in their lives, who have no enemies, antagonists, naysayers and critics.
It took Prophet Muhammad (ﷺ) twenty three years to achieve his noble mission of conveying Allah's message of guidance to mankind.
Yet, the first incident in his life that signaled the descent of this special gift from Allah was anything but a pleasant experience for him.
After receiving the first revelation of the Qur'an through an unexpected meeting with archangel Jibreel, he was actually so overwhelmed and scared, that he started trembling with terror and sought solace with his wife. Yet, rather ironically, the cause of his fear was the beginning of the greatest blessing anyone could ever ask for - that of being chosen to do Allah's work on earth as His Prophet.
The lesson here is the same that I have extracted from almost all of the stories of the other Prophets in the Qur'an: success, pleasure of Allah, and higher ranks come onlythrough hardships and unpleasant circumstances:
Prophet Musa عليه السلام had to run away from a city/nation to escape the persecution of rulers because he had unintentionally caused the death of a man.
Prophet Yunus عليه السلام had to endure suffering because of his people, which led him to almost drown, and then get ingested by a huge whale, suffering physical injuries and isolation as a result.
(I don't know about you, but I have yet to meet someone who was swallowed by a whale yet came out of it alive! Talk about positivity! √)
Prophet Essa/Jesus عليه السلام was also persecuted by his people. We all know what happened to him. Despite being a chosen slave of Allah with whom his Lord was pleased, his miraculous birth, eventual crucifixion by the Bani Israel, and the circumstances surrounding his apparent death depict a life picture full of pain, persecution and trials.
Prophet Yusuf عليه السلام was thrown in a well by his own blood-related kin when he hadn't even reached adulthood. I don't know about you, but I have yet to meet someone who was thrown deliberately, after devising a premeditated plot, into a well by his own siblings!
But it is not just the Prophets - who appear to be probably 'out of reach' for most of us, because we cannot even hope to reach a level of taqwa that is close to theirs - who endured extreme hardships and trials patiently for the sake of Allah, and were granted success in this world and the next, because of their endurance of the same.
It is also ordinary, fallible human beings like ourselves who have reached success in both worlds, who might grant us inspiration more easily, because more of us can hope to be like them.
Well, the Qur'an mentions a few of them as well.
There is Zaid, and the trial he endured when he divorced his wife Zainab and she was married by the Prophet ﷺ: this was an action that was considered very scandalous at that time, and carried great social stigma. Yet, Zaid endured the ensuing backlash for the sake of Allah, because through his endurance of this painful experience, Allah abolished a man-made social taboo/custom forever. Not to mention, he came out of it holding the exclusive honor of being the only companion of Prophet Muhammad ﷺ whose name is mentioned in the Qur'an!
Then there is A'ishah bint Abi Bakr and the incident of ifk. She and the Prophet ﷺ (and their loving relationship), were tested greatly through this trial. She spent most of the days that this trial lasted, weeping. Allah halted Divine revelation for a month, which further exacerbated the difficulty of the situation, and gave the mischief-makers and gossip-mongers in Madinah a further chance to show their true colors through the careless wagging of their tongues.
However, she and the Prophet ﷺ (and their marriage) successfully emerged from this test of their faith stronger than ever, and even though people who slander and curse her exist in the world to this day (thankfully, they are an exclusive minority), through this trial, Allah raised her ranks, and proved her innocence through a specific, acquittal-imparting - albeit indirect - mention of her in the Qur'an.
What could be a greater honor than that?
I can give other examples as well, of ordinary people who were sincere Muslims during their time, who endured trials and were raised in ranks because of their lofty level of faith for the sake of Allah, but I cannot go into details here because that will make this post too long.
There are the 3 believers whom Allah ordered to be socially marginalized because they didn't go out in time for jihad with the Prophet ﷺ.
There is the man who was martyred when he tried to help the three Prophets who were being persecuted by his nation, and got killed by them because of it (the whole story is inSurah Yaseenayaat 13-27).
There is the man who publicly supported Prophets Musa and Harun in front of Pharaoh by making an impressive speech in their defense, after hiding his faith from Pharaoh (who was his relative) until that point i.e. he had secretly become a believing Muslim despite Pharaoh's antagonism towards Prophet Musa, as narrated in Surah Ghafir.
There are the companions of the cave; the group of young lads who took a stand for the sake of monotheism; who received, as a result, Allah's special miracles. One was in the form of 'time travel': awaking to having traversed a 100 years without advancing in age. Another special miracle that Allah gave them was the bypassing of the sunlight from the mouth of their cave in such a way that they remained undisturbed; of His turning them over and over; and His casting special terror (of them) upon anyone who entered the cave.
And there is Khaulah, who has a whole surah of the Qur'an named in her honor because she stood up to the oppression of her husband when he first did dhihaar (a custom in Arab jahiliyyah) on her, then tried to be intimate with her later the same day, by stopping the Prophet in his tracks and complaining to him about her husband in an argumentative manner (جدل).
All of these believers have been granted raised ranks by being mentioned by Allah, either directly or indirectly, in the Qur'an.
But the point I am trying to make is: that if you want to be one of Allah's 'special' slaves; someone whom He loves; whom He honors by making His close, special friend (ولى) - be prepared to be tested severely; to cry hot tears of grief; to feel isolated and 'let down' by people; to lose loved ones for His sake (and I do not mean by death); to be socially marginalized and persecuted (even killed) by 'your' people.
Be prepared for a life full of outer difficulties, but inner peace. Be prepared to feel like you are weird; that you don't belong; that people hate you. Because they will.
And because victory (of both worlds) comes through pain, loss, grief, and hardship.
There are no shortcuts.
☞ Never Say Die
The Qur'an has taught me that Allah's help definitely comes for believers who are 100% sincere to Him.
However, sometimes, that help apparently 'gets late' in coming, because man is naturally predisposed to being impatient and full of haste.
People generally want to hasten outcomes in their lives according to their desires; whereas, with Allah, every decree and decision has an optimally-appointed time that is perfect and best for the believer's own benefit in life.
stones in waterYet, whenever we encounter an apparent dead-end, or a seemingly immovable road-block in life (think: our dua's for a particular blessing not being answered for many years), Shaitan tries to make us despondent, and entices us to think and say bad things about Allah, e.g. "Why isn't Allah helping me?"
However, the sincere believer doesn't fall into the trap of Shaitan, and forces himself to think positively about his Lord, even in the most seemingly bleak, hopeless, and rock-bottom circumstances and dead-end situations. He says with conviction:
كَلَّا إِنَّ مَعِيَ رَبِّي سَيَهْدِينِ
"By no means! My Lord is with me! Soon will He guide me!" [26:62]
I know that, as believers, we cannot hope to receive miracles from Allah the way His Prophets did during their lives and missions, but nevertheless, it is not totally untrue and unheard of for the friends of Allah (أولياء الله) to have inexplicable, apparently 'miraculous' incidents happen in their lives that personify the descent of Divine help from their Lord.
The Qur'an has taught me, and by the grace of Allah I have practically experienced this in my own life, to never, ever 'say die'.
That is, to never give up, throw my hands up in the air, and quit doing something good,- thinking, "This is it. No way out from here".
There is always, always a way out. And no matter how bleak a situation might seem, no matter how difficult and bad, there is always good in it for us.
Day always follows night. The light is always there at the end of the tunnel, and the tunnel always has an end.
And Allah is always there for you.
☞ Our Enemies Are Very Near
One of the most amazing things that I've come across in more than one place in the Qur'an, is the warning Allah gives us about being careful of enemies in our midst, near us, especially in our families.
I mean, who would ever suspect a family member of being their enemy, right?
Yet, Allah specifically warns us about them in the Qur'an:
يَا أَيُّهَا الَّذِينَ آمَنُوا إِنَّ مِنْ أَزْوَاجِكُمْ وَأَوْلَادِكُمْ عَدُوًّا لَّكُمْ فَاحْذَرُوهُمْ وَإِن تَعْفُوا وَتَصْفَحُوا وَتَغْفِرُوا فَإِنَّ اللَّهَ غَفُورٌ رَّحِيمٌ
"O you who believe! Truly, among your wives and your children are (some that are) enemies to yourselves: so beware of them! But if you forgive and overlook, and cover up (their faults), verily Allah is Oft-Forgiving, Most Merciful." [64:14]
Nothing can be truer than Allah's words. No advice could be more sincere or beneficial for us than the advice and exhortation of the Lord of the Universe.
And He is telling us clearly in the above ayah, that we have some enemies among our own families. He uses the same Arabic word in the Qur'an, to call them our enemy (عَدُوّ), which He uses to refer to Iblees (Shaitan).
We spend most of our time with our families as we live life, and expect them to be pillars of support and a source of unconditional and unrelenting love for us.
Yet, some of them are our own enemies. And this is precisely because this love of ours for them, and their love for us, can often become an obstacle in our path towards success in the Akhirah, and a major roadblock in acquiring the pleasure of Allah in this world.
That happens when our family members cause us pain and suffering because of the level of our faith in Allah (religiosity), or when they act in a manner that it becomes difficult for us to act upon some commands of Islam.
Ask anyone who has come towards Deen, about who made it the most difficult for them to act upon Islam, and they will most probably name a close family member.
Also, here I'd like to add that, the pain caused by family members varies over the course of our lives. For example, during our youth, we might suffer pain because of one particular relative, whereas a few years or decades down the road, that same relative might have become our very close friend/supporter, and the source of our problems could now be another family member, who was hitherto cordial and nice to us. This happens throughout our lives. Certain relatives cause us varying degrees of problems at different stages in our lives.
As I mentioned above, it was the brothers of Yusuf who not only plotted to 'get him out of the way' in their endeavors to acquire their father's exclusive attention, but actually went ahead, put their heads together, and practically achieved their vile mission.
It was Qabil who killed his own blood-brother, Habil.
It was Yusuf's mistress who tried to cheat on her righteous husband, Aziz, behind his back, in his very house, by seducing his own slave, Yusuf. And even though he caught her red-handed in the act, she remained unrepentant afterwards, trying to garner her socialite girlfriends' support in continuing to sexually harass the young Yusuf.
The wives of both Prophets Lut and Nuh (عليهما السلام) also proved treacherous to their husbands despite dwelling in their homes, because they harbored sympathies and love for their sinful, transgressive, doomed townspeople instead.
These are the few examples I could think of from the stories mentioned in the Qur'an, about how it is a righteous person' own family members who become a trial of their faith and steadfastness upon the path of Allah, by dishing out actions and words towards them that makes it difficult for them to obey Allah and His Messenger ﷺ consistently.
And if we allow them to succeed in their opposition, they will truly prove to be our enemy.
So what do we do, when someone from our own family thus becomes our enemy?
Please proceed to read the point below ☟for the answer to that question.
 'Kill Them' With Kindness
When someone - anyone - wrongs us, treats us badly, or oppresses us, the natural, innate, reactive urge within us entices us to strike back at them, and give them an eye for an eye, (perhaps even more)!
When the one who mistreats us is someone from our own family, and they unapologetically continue to mistreat us over time (knowing that we do not like what they are doing to us), it hurts even more, because they are close to us, and/or we love them.
For cases such as these, Allah has recommended a long-term strategy that will 'kill' the enmity for us harbored in the hearts of our enemies, especially those within our families:
وَلَا تَسْتَوِي الْحَسَنَةُ وَلَا السَّيِّئَةُ ادْفَعْ بِالَّتِي هِيَ أَحْسَنُ فَإِذَا الَّذِي بَيْنَكَ وَبَيْنَهُ عَدَاوَةٌ كَأَنَّهُ وَلِيٌّ حَمِيمٌ
"Nor can goodness and Evil be equal. Repel (evil) with what is better: Then will he between whom and you was hatred, become as it were your close friend." [41:34]
Returning bad behavior with good is definitely not easy, especially when tremendous damage has been done.
However, it is possible, for those who are determined enough to continue forgiving their enemies, albeit without falling into the same hole twice.
The key to striking the balance between being a weak pushover who allows people to walk all over him by not taking a stand (mistaking this to mean "being patient"), and becoming a hostile grudge-holder and vengeance-seeker bent on taking revenge,-- is to maintain a safe distance from those family members who have repeatedly wronged one, and from whose harm one still does not feel safe.
Those relatives who continue to pose a danger to our Akhirah, via word or deed i.e. they refuse to change their vile ways/habits over the course of many years,-- we should continue interacting with them from a safe distance on our own terms - i.e. without compromising on our limits/boundaries.
It is very important for us to impose these strict boundaries; for us to remain careful and wary with such relatives, because this is what Allah has advised us (فَاحْذَرُوهُمْ) in the Qur'an, and it ensures our dignity, self-respect, privacy and emotional/psychological safety from their evil.
Returning bad with good can be achieved with such relatives as follows:
  1. Greeting them with a quick salam and a smile whenever you meet them in person (this doesn't apply to non-mahrums), but quickly moving on.
  2. Visiting them briefly when/if they are ill. A phone call or text message can also accomplish this at a lesser level.
  3. Helping them financially if/when they need it.
  4. Accepting their banquet invitations, but keeping interactions therein business-like, limited and to-the-point e.g. by leaving soon and not allowing yourself to be drawn into long conversations with them.
  5. Giving or sending them occasional gifts.
Returning the bad deeds of one's enemies with good deeds is possible without allowing them to go on harming you. All it needs is a little prudence, firmness and discretion. People treat us a certain way only if we allow them to.
The best example from the Qur'an of repelling evil with good that I can think of, is the way Prophet Yusuf handled his half-brothers on meeting them again, in Egypt, when he was in a position that allowed him to have the upper hand over them.
He used the wisdom, discretion, and shrewdness that he had acquired as a result of enduring years of hardship, to reveal his true identity to them only after he had made them agree to a business deal/contract, according to the terms and conditions of which, they had to leave his younger brother with him before returning home with the purchased grain.
Yusuf knew only too well how they had plotted against him when he was young, benign and naive. Once they came to Egypt after he had become (unbeknownst to them) the government-appointed treasurer, he didn't do or say anything that would enable them to put him (or his younger brother) in a weak, compromising position again.
Rather, he used his knowledge of their mindset, nature and specific personal situation (viz. need of grains due to famine) to make them bring not only his younger brother to him, but also his aging parents.
As I said above, I have had life experiences that corroborate what I am saying here: using the strategy outlined by Allah in the Qur'an with our enemies in the long term, of returning their ad deeds with good (without compromising on our personal safety/distance/boundaries from their harmful actions), brings about surefire results: it is the single most wonderful way of 'killing' our antagonists' enmity towards us, and making them our friends instead.
But it takes years; it doesn't happen overnight. Very few people have the patience to go the distance with this strategy.
Maybe that is why most of our enemies remain our enemies throughout life, because we harbor grudges and indulge in doing their gheebah to let off steam, instead of following the recommendations of the Qur'an to get rid of the enmity between us and them for good.
 The Mills Grind Slowly, But Surely
This is definitely not the last life lesson that I have gleaned from the Qur'an, but it is the last one I intend to discuss here, due to word-count and post-length constraints (this post has again become quite long by now, hasn't it? So what else is new?).
To put it briefly, it takes a certain amount of time pre-appointed by Allah for decrees to happen; for things to reach fruition; for visions to be accomplished, and for missions to be completed.
As I said above, man is a creature of haste. Man wants to get what he desires quickly and immediately. Yet, the all-wise plan of Allah is based upon His limitless Divine knowledge of the Unseen (الغيب).
Many a thing that we desperately want can take years in coming, because Allah knows at what exact time that thing will be beneficial for us to have.
The Qur'an itself took 23 years to be revealed in totality. This process (i.e. the total revelation of Allah's final message of guidance to all of mankind) also involved many ground-breaking and difficult events, incidents and situations in the lives of Prophet Muhammad ﷺ and his companions.
Many, many a time, man wants to achieve his goal or attain a particular blessing as quickly as a snap of his fingers. However, the Qur'an teaches us that there is a law of Allah that cannot be changed, no matter how much we want or try to hasten outcomes: reaching a certain place, or acquiring a certain blessing takes time.
إِنَّا كُلَّ شَيْءٍ خَلَقْنَاهُ بِقَدَرٍ
"Verily, all things have We created in proportion and measure." [54:49]
Combined with apparent Divine 'delays' in the culmination of our desired goals, missions, and outcomes, man's haste and impatience causes his own frustration and distress.
For example, a human baby can never be born in just a month or two. Creation of each human life that comes into this world, has been decreed according to a pre-ordained amount of time (9 months, give or take a little).
The same law applies to aging. A person can never grow up overnight and reach a certain age, without passing each and every year (365 days) in between. No amount of haste can allow a 10 year old child to become 25 years old overnight.
The above examples are just of the exact, known preordained amounts of time that is needed for obtaining tangible things/goals. But what about the uncertain time intervals that are needed to be passed before attaining certain other, more surreal blessings, which only Allah knows about?
E.g The time that is required to achieve or acquire intangible types of provision, such as knowledge, wisdom, and insight. Or the exact amount of time that has to be passed before a person's marriage is decreed, or the birth of their child, or the acquisition of provisions such as a high-paying job, a house, and the car of their dreams?
Man can never ever be sure of the the exact length/amount of these preordained time intervals; only Allah knows.
وَإِن مِّن شَيْءٍ إِلاَّ عِندَنَا خَزَائِنُهُ وَمَا نُنَزِّلُهُ إِلاَّ بِقَدَرٍ مَّعْلُومٍ
"And there is not a thing but its (sources and) treasures (inexhaustible) are with Us; but We only send down thereof in due and ascertainable measure." [15:21]
So when things appear to be taking 'too long' in coming to him, man begins to get hopeless and despondent.
The truth is, that no matter how hard he pursues the means to achieve his desired ends, man can never be sure that at the end of his toils, he will surely acquire those ends. For this, he is totally dependent upon the will of Allah; waiting needily for Allah to say "Be!" regarding his decreed provision, so that he can get it.
The Qur'an has taught me that delays (or what I perceive to be delays) in the acquisition of goals and blessings are always for my own good. There are many things that I now realize, as I look back at the approximately three and a half decades of my life, that they came at a preordained time that was just right, even though I was getting impatient to get them sooner back then.
Even right now, when there are apparent delays in some of my dua's being answered,alhamdulillah, I seem to know better. I know that my Lord will never decree something for me before the time for it is just right - for my own benefit and good.

Saturday, December 27, 2014

Love before Marriage.

Imaam Ibn al-Qayyim said:

“And the cure for this deadly illness (i.e. love before marriage) is for the person that is afflicted to realize that this love is only due to his/her own delusions and ignorance.

So upon such a person is to first and foremost strengthen their Tawheed and reliance upon Allaah, and secondly to increase in worship and busy themselves with it, so much so that they do not have any spare time letting their minds wander and think about their beloved.

And they should call upon Allaah to protect them and save them from this evil, just as Prophet Yusuf called upon Allaah and he was saved. And they should do as he did, be as he was, in terms of ikhlaas (sincerity) and remembering Allaah in abundance.

This is because if the heart is filled with ikhlaas for the sake of Allaah, there will be no space left for any unlawful love to be present, rather this only happens to a heart that is empty and has no ikhlaas whatsoever.

And let such people remind themselves that whatever Allaah has decreed for them is only in their own best interests, and when Allaah commands something it is never to cause harm or misery to His slaves.

And let them also remind themselves that their unlawful love does not benefit them, neither in this world or the hereafter! As for this world then they will be so preoccupied with their love that it will cripple them and will cause them to live in a fantasy world. And as for the hereafter then it will cause them to be preoccupied with the love of the creation instead of love for the Creator!

These people need to be reminded, that the one who is emerged in something will never see its ill effects, neither will the person who has never experienced such things. The only people who will be able to relate to them are those who have experienced the same thing but have been saved. Such people can look back and realize how evil it is.”

[ad-Daa’ wa ad-Dawaa p. 300]

Wednesday, December 17, 2014

Eternal Reunion.

Khālid al-Absi said, "A son of mine died and I felt intense grief over his loss. I said, 'Abū Hurayrah, have you heard anything from the Prophet (ﷺ) to cheer us regarding our deceased?'
He replied,
'I heard the Prophet (ﷺ) say, 'Your children are roaming freely in the Garden.'" [Adab al Mufrad]
As always the word of the Prophet ﷺ brings comfort to the distressed hearts :'| <3 p="">
May the families of the deceased be given divinely inspired strength & sabr during this difficult time. May the people who were killed receive the loftiest reward with their Lord and be reunited with their families therein.

Saturday, November 15, 2014

Muslim Always On Duty.

When an European Airline was initially launched, an educated Muslim gentleman was Traveling in the first class section. An air hostess approached him with a complimentary drink, this was an alcoholic drink so that man politely refused.
The air hostess returned but this time bought the drink on a platter, designed to appeal and impress however Muslim man again politely refused, explaining he doesn't drink alcohol.
The air hostess was concerned and informed the manager. The manager approached man with another platter, now designed with flowers, he questioned, “is there something wrong with our service? please enjoy the drink, it is a complimentary offer.”
The man replied, “I am a Muslim and I do not drink alcohol.” The manager still insisted that the man take the drink.
Then, the Muslim proposed that the manager should give the drink to the pilot first.
The manager stated, “how can the pilot drink alcohol, he’s on duty!? And if he drinks there are all chances for the plane to crash”.

The passenger with tears in his eye, replied, “I am a Muslim and I am always on duty in order to protect my Imaan (Faith) and if I drink I will crash my whole life here and hereafter.

Wednesday, November 12, 2014

Be of the "'Few"

When Umar bin al-Khattab radi allahu `anhu (may God be pleased with him) was walking in the market, he passed by a man who was supplicating, “O Allah, make us of Your ‘few’ servants! O Allah make us of Your ‘few’ servants!”
So ‘Umar said to him, “Where did you get this du`a’ (supplication) from?”
And the man said, “Allah in His Book says ‘And few of My servants are grateful.’(Qur’an 34:13)”
So ‘Umar wept and admonished himself, “The people are more knowledgeable than you, O Umar! O Allah make us of Your ‘few’ servants.”
Sometimes when you advise someone to leave a sin, they respond with “But most people do it, it’s not just me!”
But if you look for the words “most people” in the Qur’an, you will find that
most people
•“do not know” (7:187),
•“do not give thanks”(2:243)
•“do not believe” (11:17).
And if you look for “most of them”, you will find that most of them are
•“defiantly disobedient” (5:59),
•“ignorant” (6:111),
•“turning away” (21:24),
•“do not reason” (29:23), and
•“do not listen” (8:21).
So be of the “few”, whom Allah says about them:
•“And few of My servants are grateful.” (34:13)
•“But none had believed with him, except a few.” (11:40)
•“In the Gardens of Pleasure, A [large] company of the former peoples, And a few of the later peoples.” (56:12-14)
Ibn al-Qayyim (ra) said, “Go on the path of truth and do not feel lonely because there are few who take that path, and beware of the path of falsehood and do not be deceived by the greatness of the perished.”

(Source: Kitab al-Zuhd by Ahmad bin Hanbal, and also in the Musannaf of Ibn Abi Shaybah.)


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